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William D'Andrea

William D'Andrea

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I'll be alone on Christmas Day. No one will be visiting me, and I won't be visiting anyone. I haven't received any phone calls, or Christmas cards from a single family member. I haven't sent a card to any of them. I no longer know any of their addresses. I don't know if any of them knows mine.
I've mentioned before that I live in a Senior Citizen Village. So far, I've found three Holiday cards in the mailbox outside my door, signed by three neighbor ladies. I'm not exactly sure who any of them is.
I have no plans for Christmas Day. Except tomorrow morning. I'm planning to have breakfast at the local I-Hop Restaurant. I've always had a good, satisfying meal there, with very good, friendly service from their waiters and waitresses; but once I leave, I'll be alone for the rest of the day.
I am a devout Christian. I have prayed to the Lord about this and am waiting patiently to see what He will do.
I will also be patiently waiting for any replies from my fellow members of christianwriters.com.
In Jesus Name. Amen.
 
William, This will be the first time in over a decade that I will be spending Christmas alone. I will, probably, get a chance to have face time with my daughter and Granddaughter for a few minutes. But, they are in Chicago and, approximately, 95% of my family lives there, so I know that they will only be able to spare me a few minutes. I will be making my own dinner, YouTube has a VERY nice selection of good movies (that are free with ads), and snacks will be on standby.
Usually, I am exhausted on Christmas. My brother and daughter have counted on my culinary skills to make our holiday meals for over 10 years. And, because I am the ONLY one cooking, it, normally, takes me three (YES, 3!) days to make our holiday meal....that includes a turkey and a ham!

And, after everyone has stuffed themselves...I was, also, the clean up and put away leftovers crew. :rolleyes:
I received 4 Christmas cards, so far, this year. And, they brought me enough Christmas joy to last me through the holiday season.

William, please don't think that I am not sympathetic to how hard this must be for you. I am sorry that you feel lonely during a time when we, as followers of Christ, should be celebrating. His birth was the beginning of hope for all mankind for all time. And, we belong to Him. I hope that you make an effort to thank each lady, personally, for leaving a Christmas card at your door. Make each one of them feel as if theirs was the one that touched your heart the most. (Women love that kinda' mushy stuff;)!) Merry Christmas!
 
William D'Andrea said:
I'll be alone on Christmas Day. No one will be visiting me, and I won't be visiting anyone. I haven't received any phone calls, or Christmas cards from a single family member. I haven't sent a card to any of them. I no longer know any of their addresses. I don't know if any of them knows mine.
I've mentioned before that I live in a Senior Citizen Village. So far, I've found three Holiday cards in the mailbox outside my door, signed by three neighbor ladies. I'm not exactly sure who any of them is.
I have no plans for Christmas Day. Except tomorrow morning. I'm planning to have breakfast at the local I-Hop Restaurant. I've always had a good, satisfying meal there, with very good, friendly service from their waiters and waitresses; but once I leave, I'll be alone for the rest of the day.
I am a devout Christian. I have prayed to the Lord about this and am waiting patiently to see what He will do.
I will also be patiently waiting for any replies from my fellow members of christianwriters.com.
In Jesus Name. Amen.
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Hey, William,

I’m sorry you’re spending Christmas Day alone, but I want you to know you are not unseen or forgotten here. You matter to this community, and I’m grateful you’re part of it.

Those cards from your neighbors feel like small gifts of kindness, and I hope they brought a little warmth to your day. I also hope your breakfast at IHOP is a good one—good food and friendly faces can mean more than we sometimes realize.

I’ll be holding you in prayer this Christmas, asking for comfort, peace, and a reminder of how deeply you are loved—by God and by others, even when it doesn’t always feel that way.

Thank you for being here, William. Merry Christmas, and God bless you!
 
I hope I can encourage you through a challenge. Why is it that holidays matter so much for companionship? I don't mean to question your pain, I mean to have you dig deep to see where the pain comes from. I don't believe it comes from what day it is. Start with that. Where does the prompt come from that Christmas is about feeling a sense of belonging? As Johne mentioned, this world might say, "those 3 cards weren't from friends or family!", but what if those 3 neighbors are God sent? What if prayers are being answered? What if God is meant to be praised for each of those responses?

I don't write this to correct you, I couldn't possibly offer anything to make you feel better, save for the desire to help you feel better. But I do hope you will challenge yourself. Don't accept defeat from this world, rather understand where the pain comes from.

Thank you for being strong in acknowledging the situation. Thank you for the great example of seeking prayer and community where God does work. Please remember the great liar will bombard you with Hallmark movies and social media posts that proclaim your status isn't rooted in the mighty God.

Praying for you, William. Don't despair. God is in the whisper. He is with you. Praying peace over your heart. Praying your blood-bought family of Christ surrounds you and drowns out the lies of this world.

I hate that you feel alone. Peace be with you! It is 11:53 P.M. (6 hours behind GMT) on Christmas Eve and I am praying for you. God, has put it on my heart that you have a warrior family that you cannot see. We are bonded, but not yet together. May your faith be bolstered to fantastical new heights right now. May you sense the Savior and worship in the Spirit and dance in the good news we both know to be true.
 
Never alone

I was set to volunteer at a social outreach event, to which I had already arranged a ride. I woke early. I needed to hit the bank and the grocery store. Attending both transpired quickly, so I kept walking.
I grabbed this oppertuninty to spite the weather while I set myself to commune with our Lord, and to hear from him as to prayer needs.
The exercise was a byproduct, and I arrived at my destination before my ride was due to leave, so they were in no way put out.

The understanding behind this was taught to me during my teen years. I was highly rejected concerning my faith, including by my family. I wanted to check-out and start my life in eternity with my Love, my Lord.
One depressed day He called me by name. I was shocked. I was amazed. I was honored. I was grateful. I was not lonely because I was not alone — proof positive.

I was not free from feeling lonely — when rejected, ridiculed, slighted, etc... but I can quickly pull out of it when living my relationship with the Lover Of My Soul!

We have the largest family in this world through Christ! Many are experiencing more than I this moment. We have the advantage of praying with the understanding AND praying in the Spirit And singing the Word. My day is full before I add family.

P. S. - I was not coming on this site today. I am in conversation with three people, three generations, while I navigate my mistypes.
Father God loves you! Brother, Jesus, our Christ loves you! God, the Holy Spirit is within you, and excited.
Bblest and enjoy your day. It's ok to cry, too
 
Oh, William, I'm sorry. My house has been topsy-turvy for several days and I totally missed this. Please forgive me for not responding.

I'm so sorry you were alone. But you know what? I think you need a project next year. Something to get you out and focus on others. Help out at your center for a Christmas brunch, lunch, or dinner. Or volunteer at a shelter to help feed others. There is always someone that needs help and a word of encouragement. You can do that. Think outside the box. And don't keep yourself in it. Praying! 🙏
 
Starting this evening, I am no longer alone. I am stuck in my apartment by a heavy snowfall, which is predicted to last all night and into tomorrow morning, leaving about 8 inches of snow all over Long Island. I am safe inside my apartment and do have enough food. As I said, I am not alone. The Lord is with me. He is my close familiar friend, as Job called Him, and he's keeping my life from becoming anywhere close to Job's.
Thank the Lord. In Jesus Name. Amen.
 
William,
I am late at seeing your message. My heart goes out to you and so many others like you for whom the holidays can seem lonely. God made us to be in fellowship with one another. When we don’t have that on Christmas it can be a difficult time. Yes, we always have God and praise Him for that. Yet we are still human with human emotions.

I would be interested in knowing how you got through Christmas. Or perhaps ask yourself what you can do to get through times like those. A good friend told me that having something to look forward to can help to get through the difficult times. I have often used this advice even if it is as simple as having a treat while watching a good movie. Or setting up time to visit a friend or play a game with one of your neighbors who gave you a card.

I find it is also very helpful to talk with God, to reflect on all that he has brought me through and for his guidance. Reading about His love for us truly is uplifting.

I pray that you will feel God’s love. I pray that you will be able to make some friends that you can spend your holidays with.

God bless you my brother!
 
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