By Victor Remes
You have forgiven the iniquity of Your people; You have covered all their sin.
Psalms 85:2 NKJV
Forgiveness the dictionary definition is to stop feeling angry or resentful towards (someone) for an offence, flaw, or mistake.
I know many of you including me do struggle with forgiving others that have done wrong, and whoever it is and whatever they have done I know forgiveness isn’t the first thing that comes to mind. To be honest with you; writing this piece has been prompted by my own experiences with forgiving others including myself.
Let me be straight and honest with you all; this post was the hardest piece I’ve ever written. The last few weeks I have been through some tough and painful challenges even the people that truly know me don’t even know.
This season God brought me through has shown me that I have been holding grudges since I was a young kid. It could be grudges about myself or about people that have done me wrong. But I never actually let it go; all I done is slip it under a rug and literally forgot about it and carried on with life. How many of you are doing this?
In the New Testament, the bible reminds us that God has forgiven all of our sins through Christ’s death. And time and time again; Christian are commanded to forgive as well.
And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you. - Ephesians 4:32 NKJV
What I found is the grudges I have been keeping were holding me back and if this was holding me back its also holding you back as well the reason I say this is because some of you may have thought that holding a grudge against somebody makes you strong but it doesn’t it makes you bitter; and that forgiving makes you weak it doesn’t it sets you free.
God showed me that forgiveness is important, because when we truly forgive that’s when healing starts to happen inside us. The thing is ‘nobody is prefect’ we all make mistakes; we all know this saying very well but we all say this and still expect perfection from the people that are in our lives, the ones we speak so highly about but then they disappoint you, they hurt you, break your trust and abused the love you gave them. Well if we truly want to LOVE we need to FORGIVE.
Christ died on the cross for me and you. Why? because He loves us knowing that we may not even love Him back. Reading the story of Jesus before He died on the cross. He didn’t expect anything back from the people that He shared His Time, Love and Trust to. They either praised Him or accused Him but He still loved them and forgave them. Jesus Himself forgave the people that done wrong to Him and why shouldn’t we forgive the people that have done wrong to us as well.
I found that some of us are blaming ourselves for the lost of others, even the people that we know that have passed. Stop blaming yourself for the things you did bad and good or didn’t do while they were with us. You need to forgive yourself because really those that left have gone to live their life and the ones that have passed their death, their pain has been lifted and they are free from the world and its struggles.
You shouldn’t take the responsibility for their passing, you can’t carry the weight of their death on your shoulders like a lead blanket dragging you further and further down.
There is way more to forgiveness than this but I just want to say to truly release yourself from the painful burden you need to forgive just as Christ Jesus forgave you. You may feel like that you’re the problem to everyone’s pain at times but you are not. Forgive yourself and let yourself be free from the pain and find the truth about the true love through Christ Jesus.
Now to those that are reading this now knowing that I may have done something against you; I ask that you forgive me. Not for me to feel better but that you find peace in your heart. To those that have done wrong to me I forgive you all, I’m done with feeling this pain and being disappointed in myself for holding onto this. I’m letting go of the things that have been holding me back. I pray that this will help you to let go and forgive.
Jesus! thank you for forgiving me, thank you for dying on the cross for me, you have shown your love to me and I thank you for it, I pray that you will show me how to forgive myself and those that have hurt me a lot as well and start your healing in my heart with your love. In Jesus Name Amen.