A Good Dady

[AngelAzariah]

Hey everyone,
_____What makes a good dady? I keep asking myself if I'm a good dad. Do I do the right things, do I give spankens currectly, are my children in bed at a good time, what age should my children be toilet traind?
_____Anyway, I was wondering what others here thought a good dady was like? Oh and to save you the truble, he should be as much like God as he can be. :p Now you will have to think of something more custructive than a one liner. (Someone will probably hand out one anyways) :rolleyes:

[DrRita]

I was just talking to my husband about my own father tonight. My dad was an alcoholic and drank for the better part of his life. But for about ten years, from (my age) 5 to about 15, he was sober. My dad didn't ever once tell me he loved me but I knew he did. He wasn't affectionate toward me, but I think he didn't know how. My dad died about 20 years ago and now, looking back, I think my dad was always there for me. He never judged me, he let me be who I was. I think it's important that dad's accept their children for who they are and try to help them be what God wants them to be. I know it's not much but it's what I have.

[dublinheart]

One who will LISTEN, HEAR, and ACCEPT. Total acceptance of the child as his child without regard to circumstances. I am not saying acceptance of behaviors, attitudes, etc. but acceptance of the child as a precious person in God's sight and in the father's sight. Even though I lost my father when I was 14, my memories of him are that he loved and enjoyed being with me. He loved to spend time and energy on me. He listened to me. He heard what I said, and he accepted me for who I was, not what he wanted for me.
In my mind, that's a great dad. :D

[DMKinjorski]

Angel,

What I have learned is that we must establish boundaries. Bedtime should be reasonable for the age of the child...preschool children should go to bed that gives them about 6 - 8 hours of sleep - approximately. Even today, my kids are 13 and 14, we try to get them to bed no later than 9:30 and 10:00 hrs. but that does not work that well with school and church activities. .....hey look - I have to go ....the "tile" guy is here and I am learning to install tile on the floors.

I will continue later.....but be consistent in all that you do and say.....

catch U later bro.

Dan

[AngelAzariah]

_____All that was very encoraging and put a smile to my face. Thank you for the input everyone. I think personaly, that I am doing well, but there are days I'm just not sure. Maybe it's good to reflect and duble check what we do with our children.