Keeping your Marriage on the right track.

[jacks girl]

What have you done lately to keep your marriage on track. We just hit 22 years so we must be doing something right. I'm trying to look at things in order to keep things moving smoothly.

My mind is always waiting for the next shoe to drop, think it's a part of OCD not sure. But anyway. Got any good tips. Some times I think we forget the small things. Below is a few things I been trying to keep in line to make things move along in a happy path.

Keeping the house more organized.
Trying to save money so the bills are not an issue.
Helping more around the house.
Trying to loose some weight and get my health in better shape. LOL
Last but not least trying to pray more and read my Bible more.

Any tips guys.

[Tamera]

Since I've been married 29 years, I'll pipe in. I have learned that my husband is more affectionate and meets my emotional needs when I am passionate toward meeting his physical needs if you know what I mean. I'd also have to say we both respect each other and encourage each other to fulfill God's callings on our lives.

[ProfessorAlan]

Coming up on 21 years, so ..... I would say let each of you develop your individualtiy (and differences from the other) in the context of a supportive relationship.

[lynnmosher]

What have you done lately to keep your marriage on track...Any tips guys.

Lately? Not lately, but for years, I have honored my husband as the Bible commands me; I put him first, after God; if I get aggravated at him, I begin to praise the Lord that my husband isn't like some others and that I have a husband who loves me; I rarely get mad, and, if I am upset about something, I never yell at him, blame things on him, shake my finger at him, or whatever, I just tell him nicely.

While the things you mentioned are great, don't forget the little things...back or foot rubs, fixing a special dinner and putting candles on the table (and having soft music), taking him a cup of coffee or tea without him asking, or whatever comes to your mind.

Having a giving heart and humble spirit is essential.

[WritingChaos]

Jacks,
I think you listed just about everything you can do… and maybe some things some of us would rather not do. ~_^

Lynnmosher,
Back rubs? Those sometimes hurt, almost prefer it to never be done. I will say it’s nice sometimes to not have to make my own coffee, but if my wife did that all the time, I wouldn’t enjoy it so much. It’s give and take I guess.

[lynnmosher]

LOL! My husband has back problems and I give a pretty good back rub. I give him one at least once a day! One of the very special things my hubbby likes is my coffee. It's pretty darn good. It is a treat for him and he thoroughly loves it. And yes, we do a lot of give and take!

[WritingChaos]

I have bad problems getting sleep, so when I can get to bed with her at the same time, that makes her happy. Sometimes I sneak out as soon as she snores, but zo-well.

[jacks girl]

What is this new tags stuff. What can we do with a tag? Anyone know.

I fix coffee for hubby all the time. I try to not make him ask. but he is gone most of the week so when he comes home I try to be sure and pamper him.

jacks

[Mouse5]

Jacks, right now I do a lot of praying and singing praises. That's about the only thing that keeps me from blowing my top some days.:o

[WritingChaos]

Hey I got a new idea today, and I’m trying it myself just for fun. I always wear shorts and a t-shirt year around. Today though I’m going to surprise my wife in this stinking humid heat. I’ve put on some blue jeans, a yellow tank, and over it a fancy shiny shirt with a very colorful dragon on the back. Maybe I’ll spark her fancy with some new duds on.

[lynnmosher]

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Love it!

[WritingChaos]

?¿?¿ Confusald ?¿?¿

[lynnmosher]

Love you idea! If it wasn't meant to be fun, I thought it was anyway! I guess I need to apologize! Sorry!

[WritingChaos]

Don’t be sorry. I enjoy getting people to laugh; I was just wondering what was so funny. I sometimes use things that make people laugh in my books.

[Cymrugirl]

Forgiving and forgetting are more than just a catchphrase in our house. We don't do grudges, silent treatment, vengeful stuff - none of that. We prefer honesty.

We both know how imperfect each other is - we know each other's failures and shortcomings. We don't do pedestals either.

There's a lot of love in our house and I'm not sure I can make a concise universally recognizable list as to how it grew there - I just know it's there and we are content and decision to be content with who we are on the road to where we are going is very freeing.

[lynnmosher]

Amen, Cymrugirl! !thumbsup!

[righter1]

My husband and I've been married 5 1/2 years (6 this coming August.) Sometimes, it seems every day is a struggle. And, with his recent absence, I think it's helped both of us to realize how important we are to each other.

With us, I think it helps for us to talk every day--tell each other about frustrations we're facing (he's still not sure about his new job)--and I notice a huge difference in him if we're not able to talk for some reason (like one week, he didn't have the freedom to talk when he was in training since he was consistently with someone nearly 24/7).

I'm trying to get better about keeping the house more in order, but I still have trouble seeing clutter as a problem even though he hates it.

I try to do special things for him when I think of it... cleaning is a big one for him, so although I'm not the world's best housekeeper, I try to remember to clean when I can, and I'll make him something special that I don't like, like peanut butter cookies. And, I try to go shopping for him sometimes, but that hasn't always worked out so well... he's got great taste when it comes to picking stuff for me, but it's hit and miss with me if he'll like what I get for him!

[ProfessorAlan]

I try to do special things for him when I think of it... cleaning is a big one for him, so although I'm not the world's best housekeeper, I try to remember to clean when I can, and I'll make him something special that I don't like, like peanut butter cookies.

That sort of thing is right on target. Each person and relationship is different, so a key si finding out what is important to the other person, and sacrificing every now and then to do something to please them.

[jacks girl]

Hey how did the shirt work out Chaos. Did the wife love it. i know a big thing at our house is hair cuts. hubby loves the buzz doo and I hate it. I would prefer he let his hair grow out even a little long on his collar but he hates it.

We have argued a lot of this and now we have come to kind of an agreement, he threatens to get a buzz but usually just gets a short hair cut.

[WritingChaos]

She thought I looked really smexy, however she was dead tired also. I ended up just putting her to bed and dozing off myself. At least I made her smile.

[jacks girl]

Is your spouse helpful when you are sick. mine has been this time though sometimes in the past he's not been so helpful. What do you do when your spouse is down and out and feeling bad to perk them up.

Hubby don't really like a lot of special att when he is sick he just wants to rest. so i try to do things like get the remote fix that special drink, find him something good to watch on tv or a good movie to rent. i'll stay off the computer when he wants to be on it.

what do you do.

[righter1]

Is your spouse helpful when you are sick. mine has been this time though sometimes in the past he's not been so helpful. What do you do when your spouse is down and out and feeling bad to perk them up.

Hubby don't really like a lot of special att when he is sick he just wants to rest. so i try to do things like get the remote fix that special drink, find him something good to watch on tv or a good movie to rent. i'll stay off the computer when he wants to be on it.

what do you do.

It depends for me how sick I am, I think, whether my hubby is helpful. If I've got a cold, he might make me some orange juice, but that's about it. He'll be after me in an hour or two to be doing the dishes, laundry, etc. I don't frequently get REALLY sick, and it doesn't last that long, but he's more helpful if I'm more sick--bringing me ice water, cool rags for my head, etc...

Like me, my husband isn't sick very often. When he is, I try to do what I can to help him out. If I have to go to work, I'll come home at lunch to check on him. :)