Love vs Religion

[lawi]

Love/religion

Is there a thing like ‘we were meant to be…’ stuff …where and how and to what extend do you include your believe in a relationship ….am okay with not being unequally yoked with a non believer I have no questions there its once said and has to be applied …but …...does it end there …..or do you go on looking at how deep the person is rooted to Christ…….gifting ….etc ….is a question many of ma friend argue every time ……is there ‘love’ like the one we had when we were in our teens nowadays many things determine who you love or not love ….finances …..Academic …….religion ……..their character ….physical appearance and the list is never ending …..so in simple terms we choose whom to love ….its not fun

[TanyaSue]

Are you talking about love, attraction or romance? These are three very different things. Connected in some ways, but distinguished in meaning.

Love is a choice. It's not an emotion or an attraction. It's a choice. And, yes, it can be very fun! But it also needs to be smart and healthy.

My pastor has always said the only reason to get married is if you can serve God better together than you can apart.

[ProfessorAlan]

My pastor has always said the only reason to get married is if you can serve God better together than you can apart.

Not terribly romantic, but ...

[TanyaSue]

LOL. No, but it's true. If all we do is to glorify God, then certainly our choice of spouse should fit the bill.

If by not getting married, you place yourself in sin, then getting married is definitely a better way to serve God. It doesn't have to mean being missionaries or changing the world. It could just mean being a better Christian right where you are.

[Lookin^Up]

Perhaps if Lawi could rephrase the question in actual sentences, we could understand what he's asking. Just a suggestion.

[lawi]

if i am looking for a wifey ....what between the three do i really go for .........coz they seem to be different and can u fall in love with a person and not attracted or have felings about.....i thought in romantic love they all go hand in hand


my question was this..is there pure romantic love were its not defined by finances academics looks etc religion ....coz i find there are pple i cant fall in love with [sad]
and there are those i can fall in love with...or that isnt love ???maybe infatuation
i dont know weather am now clear

[Lookin^Up]

If you're asking whether pure romantic love can or should not include finances, academics, looks, or religion, the answer is no. All those must be factored in, because true love is a decision, then a commitment, not a feeling. There's a big difference between loving someone and falling in love with someone; the latter is usually a recipe for infatuation.

[lawi]

i now do understand...thanks