For my daughter

[saz]

I am so disturbed right now. i had a call from the principal of my daughter's school telling me that a group of boys had lured a group of girls into the ravine behind the school with the intention of getting one of the girls to perform oral sex. My 13 year old was one of them. I felt like I had been kicked. i thought I was going to throw up. My daughter says she only went with them because her friend begged her to go and she didn't want to leave her friend alone. She thought if anything happened she could protect her friend (my daughter has a blue stripe belt in taekwondo). i explained that taking taekwondo does not make her superwoman and a group of boys could overpower a few girls. There were many tears on both our parts. Now I wait to see what happens to this group of boys.

Please pray that the parents of the other girls and of the boys address this issue and impress just how serious this is.

[rljfl]

Oh wow. I will be praying. You hear about stuff like that from the youth all the time, but I can't imagine it as a parent (not for a long time hopefully).

[Anne Lacey]

Oh no! I would be horrified too! Sending prayers up on your family's behalf!

[Ransom v. Unman]

Effed up... :eek:

Seriously. Yeah... Will be praying.

[cynthiahickey]

Praying here, too.

[jacks girl]

So sad and terrible what in the world are people teaching their children. I don't have children but for boys to do this it just leaves me speechless. prayers being sent up now.


Jacks Girl

[GentleJourneyAu]

Praise God it was discovered, and stopped. (It sounds like) Prayers that the families of these children will handle it calmly and rationally and be able to find the proper words to help their children understand how sensitive and serious things like this can be.

[saz]

The boy received a two day suspension but has since emailed my daughter and called her a slut and told her that in two days he will rule the classroom again. He makes me sick.

[tlm]

You need to be pro-active about all of this. Don't give this boy even the slightest chance to get away with anything. Cyber-bullying is huge now. Keep every e-mail to send to the police. Keep every message on the phone. These last weeks of school are when these bullies are at their worst. They know it is the end of the year and they don't have much to loose.

I am guessing that the school won't (or can't) do much. As a teacher, I would advise you to see what legal protection you can get for your daughter outside of the school system. Contact the police and ask them what they advise. When word gets out that alone might be enough to encourage these boys to leave your daughter alone.

I don't mean to make you more fearful. I am just throwing out ideas to keep your daughter safe. My son was in a situation where he was being bullied and messages were left (dozens in a single night) about how a student wanted to kill him. I left a message on the answering machine that said that all messages left on this machine had and would be saved and sent to the local police department as evidence. That was enough to stop the calls and physical assaults.

My prayers are with you.

[saz]

Thank you for the advice and suggestions.

This morning i had asked my daughter to show me the emails but she had already deleted them. I did have a very long conversation with another mom and we are going to be notifying each other of any contact from this/these boys. Apparently this was premeditated by more than one boy and there was a large group of kids who were hanging around to see what was going to happen. I also found out that my daughter was not one of the targets, she literally went to keep her friend company because they didn't feel right about the situation.

however, i am waiting for the principal to call me to tell me what transpired with the parents and I will be letting him know this young man's actions (re-emailing my daughter). I will also be letting him know that i want this boy removed from the classroom and placed in a different one for the rest of the year (I doubt this will happen but if I don't say anything, nothing will happen). i understand that there was one boy who had a enough morals to say "okay, that's gone far enough. Stop it" when he realized how nervous and scared the girls were. What gets me was the premeditation and planning. that frightens me more than anything else.

On the up side, it opened a conversation with my daughter that was very important and demonstrated what I had been 'nagging' her about. That is one positive thing I can take from this.

[tlm]

Just keep in mind that the principal's job is to walk the tightrope between keeping you from suing the school and keeping the boy's parents from suing the school. That may sound a little jaded, but she/he should not be your main source for seeing that your daughter is protected. The principal isn't about any of that.

That e-mail message may still be in the trash. It is important to keep all e-mails because they can be traced by police or FBI (or just about any high school kid).

I pray for the best, but please make sure your daughter tells you everything so you can protect her. These boys really do seem dangerous.

[Merry]

Pardon my language but...aw skip it, you can probably guess....when did going to school become the most dangerous degrading thing a kid could do? Praying for you saz. In fact, I usually send up a general prayer to God each day for everyone with daughters in public school. What a mess!

[righter1]

How horrible! Prayers are sent for your daughter... and the school to do the right thing...

[cpbookworm]

Prayers are sent. The way the world is going is sad and disgusting, but this is all part of what must happen to bring the Antichrist on the scene.